"I'm always telling people, 'You cannot find peace until you find all the pieces,'" he says. "I've just become an active participant in life." Now, Tamisha looks and feels better than ever. Especially when you're in school, kids talk about their experiences growing up or teachers will ask for pictures of your childhood, and I just didn't have those things like the other kids did." "Every now and then, I'd have little flashbacks of my life. "One thing that we do as women, we just keep going. Though she adjusted to her new family, Tamisha says she never forgot her first home. Tamisha also says she's been able to put her feelings of rejection to rest. "It kind of helped me to release a lot of the concerns." "When I saw her, she looked so well," she says. Mary has been able to leave her feelings of guilt behind. "Who loves you when you need them? That's your family." "Blood is not thicker than water," Troy says. One year after their emotional reunion, Mary and Tamisha are like family once again. Mary hopes Troy can help her deliver one message to Tamisha: "I just want her to know that I loved her from the day she left my house and I love her today." "But they said that I could not speak with her." "I called social service on a couple of occasions, and they told me she was doing fine," she says. Later, Mary says she tried contact Tamisha. It was a date I'll always remember, and I've carried this many years because I felt like I didn't get a chance to explain anything to her." "If I'd have went out there, I would have just snatched her back. She was crying, and they told me to wait in the house," Mary says. Tamisha was forced to leave the only home she could remember. Social services told her 7-year-old Tamisha had been adopted by another family. Then, Mary received the shock of her life. "At the time we were always under the impression that was going to place her back with her biological mother." "We wanted to but we weren't able to," she says. I took care of her like any mom would, and she called me Mommy." The family lived happily for five years-and expanded when Mary gave birth to a healthy baby girl. "I just fell in love with her," Mary says. When 2-year-old Tamisha came to live with the couple, she healed their hearts and lit up their lives. In 1978, Mary and her husband, Clement, became foster parents after suffering numerous miscarriages and a stillborn child. "Sometimes to protect ourselves, we decide we don't really want that person in our life anyway because they're not worthy of us, or they hurt us, or we believe some version of the story that may not be true-until eventually we've said it so many times it's become fact and we've created an inability to move forward. "Any wound left untreated can grow worse," he says. When it comes to lost loved ones, Troy says people need to realize time does not heal all wounds. Part-detective, part-therapist, Troy helps people make peace with the past. Now Troy's tracking down birth moms and dads, old friends and missing relatives on WE tv's The Locator. Since then, Troy says he's brought nearly 40,000 people back together. Twenty years ago, he started his career with a case close to his heart-searching for his mother's birth parents. Investigator Troy Dunn is the master of unfinished business. What's holding you back from making the first move-and what happens if that person is long gone by the time you've found your nerve? Think of a loved one you've lost touch with.
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